Mentoring Through the Hard Things

There are times in our lives when we simply don’t know what to do. Those times seemed even more troublesome when we find ourselves in a position to lead or mentor others. We want to have all the answers and we want to help, especially when we see that our mentees are hurting and going through hard things. I’ve found myself on the giving and receiving end of good intentions and emotions of comfort, only to have the person leave my presence in the same defeated condition, or to find myself under the same weight as before my mentor spoke words of encouragement to me.

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Diversity is not Nice

I am so excited to join the Missio Alliance writing team! I have written for them before but now, I will be contributing to their blog monthly. You can find out more about them at their new website. My first post is up today titled, “Diversity is not Nice.”
Diversity is Not Nice

Last weekend, I had the opportunity to speak at a women’s event at my church. The question I was asked to answer is, “Why does God call us to diversity?” Even looking at the question now causes me to sigh. This emotional response is because I believe that people in the church, at least my multi-ethic congregation, know the answer to that question. Some of us can even quote scripture and maybe tell a story or two about it, but there are still hurt feelings, unasked questions, topics we don’t address, a silent strolling of offensive posts by our so called “friends” on social media, and suddenly, we (the minority group) realize that “they” don’t know us well at all. Perhaps they have not even tried, that is what undergirds the sigh. It is the weariness of understanding that what God calls us to is quite clear, at least for those of us Jesus-loving, Bible-toting, Sunday morning worshipping, bridge building believers. But for some reason we don’t always have a passionate pursuit of diversity. We have simply gotten comfortable with our love of the idea of diversity.

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Mentoring: Look Who’s Watching

1989 marked the movie release of the comedy “Look Who’s Talking” featuring superstars John Travolta, Kristie Alley, and Bruce Willis. The main character gets pregnant and gives birth to baby boy Mikey (with Bruce Willis providing his voice over). Together, movie watchers laughed out loud as Mikey’s words gave us the imagination to understand what babies are really thinking. Guess what? We conclude, from the movie, that babies might actually see and understand a lot more than we give them credit for.

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