Mentoring 101: Freedom

Mentoring 101: Freedom

I recently led a women’s retreat about mentoring and intentionally making disciples in the church. It was such a wonderful experience! Much like reading or studying the Word, I find teaching a refining discipline. The more you do it, the more you become aware of its redemptive work in you, how much more the Holy Spirit desires to teach, and how much work you have to do.

The women I had the pleasure of engaging left the retreat engaged and excited to Mentor for Life! Since so many of them purchased both the Mentor for Life book, and the accompanying Leader’s Training Manual, I wanted to make the training videos readily accessible on my blog.

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Book Review: The Peacemaker Student Edition

Today for “Natasha’s Study” I am reviewing the book, The Peacemaker Student Edition: Handling Conflict without Fighting Back or Running Away, by Ken Sande and Kevin Johnson

Why I picked up this book:

The Peacemaker

I was first introduced to the book, The Peacemaker, by Ken Sande when I was attending seminary. I was going through a very difficult time in my marriage and the book was both convicting and healing at the same time.

When I started the mentoring and discipleship ministry at my church, the book was required reading for everyone on my leadership team. I thought the teaching and concepts were necessary for our growing healthy relationships. Peacemaking, is like love and forgiveness; it is not something we would naturally do on our own. We cannot naturally do it without God’s help and that includes putting away our old habits and learning new ways of being in the world.

“The Peacemaker” book is 300 pages, which is a massive amount of reading for the average American who only has patience to digest 140 characters at a time. Therefore, I originally bought “The Peacemaker Student Edition” as an alternate teaching tool. Depending on the learning audience, I thought I could cover a similar amount of teaching ground in a lot less time.

As it turned out, one of my mentees recently moved to another state. She was having communication challenges with some of her family members, and we were able to work through this resource together.

Who Should Read The Peacemaker Student Edition:

The Peacemaker Student Edition

This book is beneficial for anyone who has influence, ministry, parenting, or mentoring responsibilities for middle and high school students. The book is an easy read and a great resource for individual or small group processing.

This is also a great resource to go through with the millennials in your life. Millennials need mentoring and guidance, and they are looking to receive that from adults who are older and wiser than them.

When I see adults who have a habit of gossiping, lashing out, and holding grudges, I know that they have not learned to love, make peace, or forgive. Again, these are all intentional actions that the Holy Spirit helps us to cultivate. Yet we must be willing to unlearn or “put off” as the Bible states, our old habits and manner of being, and then learn or “put on” new habits that will glorify God.

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Leadership Issue: Hello! Millennials are Leaving the Church


Millennials are leaving the Church. That’s the conclusion that is drawn from much of the recent readings. The statement is only partially true, however, and it presents a great opportunity for the evangelical church to reconsider how she approaches the millennial generation, makes disciples, and views diversity. Taking another look at this problem offers some promising solutions.

Millennials are Leaving the Church

In a recent article titled “59 Percent of Millennials Raised in the Church Have Dropped Out — And They’re Trying to Tell Us Why” on Faith It, writer Sam Eaton reported that “only 4 percent of the Millennial Generation are Bible-Based Believers. This means that 96 percent of Millennials likely don’t live out the teachings of the Bible, value the morals of Christianity and probably won’t be found in a church.”

Drawing on information from a 2014 Barna study concerning this group of 22-to-35 year olds, the findings are consistent with reporting from the past decade or more. A simple Google search of “why are millennials leaving the church” will only lead us to draw a dismal conclusion about the relationship between the church and her lost millennials. In research for my book, Mentor for Life, however, I made a note to highlight that the Black Church is not experiencing the same decline among this coveted group.

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