Wisdom for Finding a Mentor

I am cooking up a lot of projects behind the scenes! One of them is the SheGrows Conference.

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The purpose of the SheGrows conference is to inspire women across generations to enter into mentoring relationships and invest in the next generation. I’m joined on the platform by the conference’s visionary, author and speaker, Laurie Polich Short, and speaker and advocate, Brooklyn Lindsey.   This is a conference series that is coming to city near you! We are heading to St. Louis this weekend, and appreciate your prayers. In the meantime, please visit the SheGrows Conference website to see how we can be of service to your church or community.

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Today, I’m sharing my first piece “Wisdom for Finding a Mentor” from Propel Sophia.

For me, mentoring started when I walked out the gate of my college campus and knocked on her door. That’s when Mary welcomed me into her heart and her home. She taught me how to love Jesus, study his Word, and walk in the Way. Then she prepared me to do the same for others. As a small group leader, Marine Corps officer, seminary lecturer, consultant, and parent, I have entered into many mentoring relationships over the years. I have been blessed by those who committed to mentoring me, and have, in turn, mentored others at various stages of their life or leadership journey. As someone who has written and coached extensively on mentoring, the question I’m most often asked is, “How do I find a mentor?”

This question meets a basic need and that’s why we need to ask. We all need companionship and wise spiritual counsel on this journey called life. From the beginning, God said it was not good for humans to be alone. The presence of mentors in our lives meets critical emotional, physical, and spiritual needs. The primary way we connect with mentors is by asking—either we ask someone to mentor us or they ask to become our mentor.

Asking may be difficult, but it is part of God’s pattern for us. When the disciples wanted to know how to pray, they asked Jesus (Luke 11:1). Jesus taught and modeled for his disciples the importance of asking the Father to meet our needs.

Asking can be complicated, too: When James was writing a letter to the early Christians, he warned them that sometimes they don’t get what they ask for because they ask with the wrong motives (James 4:3).

Continue reading at Propel Sophia.

Mentoring 106: Mentor for Life

We are closing our mentoring series with the same title of the book, “Mentor for Life.”

You can catch up on Parts 1 through 5 of the series here: Mentoring 101: Freedom, Mentoring 102: Mentor for Joy, Mentoring 103: Love, Mentoring 104: Peace, and Mentoring 105: Hope.

When my publisher and I came up with the book title, “Mentor for Life,” we were contemplating what mentoring for God’s kingdom purposes actually does. I have seen in my own life, and in the lives of those that I have the privilege of influencing that mentoring can indeed change a life.

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Leadership Issue: Hello! Millennials are Leaving the Church

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Millennials are leaving the Church. That’s the conclusion that is drawn from much of the recent readings. The statement is only partially true, however, and it presents a great opportunity for the evangelical church to reconsider how she approaches the millennial generation, makes disciples, and views diversity. Taking another look at this problem offers some promising solutions.

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In a recent article titled “59 Percent of Millennials Raised in the Church Have Dropped Out — And They’re Trying to Tell Us Why” on Faith It, writer Sam Eaton reported that “only 4 percent of the Millennial Generation are Bible-Based Believers. This means that 96 percent of Millennials likely don’t live out the teachings of the Bible, value the morals of Christianity and probably won’t be found in a church.”

Drawing on information from a 2014 Barna study concerning this group of 22-to-35 year olds, the findings are consistent with reporting from the past decade or more. A simple Google search of “why are millennials leaving the church” will only lead us to draw a dismal conclusion about the relationship between the church and her lost millennials. In research for my book, Mentor for Life, however, I made a note to highlight that the Black Church is not experiencing the same decline among this coveted group.

Continue reading at Missio Alliance.