Great leaders are introspective. They know their strengths and their areas in need of improvement. They are not afraid to ask for help, and they know when and who to ask when it is needed. This level of introspection comes with wisdom and experience. It also comes when we surround ourselves with a great team of people.
Great leaders know how to work. Over the past few months, I have been leading meetings for my nonprofit, Leadership LINKS Inc. When I ask our leadership team what they like about being a part of the organization, one of the consistent responses is, “We get stuff done.” Whether you are leading a nonprofit organization, planting a church, ministering to college students, launching a new ministry or planning vacation Bible school, you must get stuff done.
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Without a doubt, I have found that the number one reason women don’t mentor is because of the fear that they don’t have anything to offer. Nothing can be further from the truth, but the belief of this lie paralyzes us from moving forward when we have the opportunity to act. We all have something to offer, and maybe the reason people think they don’t is because they haven’t taken the opportunity to regularly consider who they are. Who are you? If you have never done so, set aside time this week to write down the answer to that question.
At its core, leadership flows out of our being not from our doing. When we know who we are and whose we are, we are compelled to act because our purpose requires it. Therefore, one of my points of note to mentors and those considering mentoring is to ensure they are self-aware and caring for their own souls. Regularly setting aside time to be with the God and ask yourself the hard questions, evaluate motivations, rearrange priorities, and consider the important relationships in your life (both those where you are currently investing and others God might be inviting you into) is critical and intentional work in the life of a mentor. Oftentimes, getting clarity about our own insecurities and motivations require us to be still in the presence of the Lord. In his presence, we can quiet the noises and distractions in our head. In his presence, we can set our intentions on him and what he will have us do with our lives. Settling down to listen to the Lord, frees you from the “shoulds” or what you feel you “ought to” do, and brings the necessary conviction concerning the “musts” or those assignments God has strategically placed in front of you.
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A friend of mine released a book that was titled, Permission Granted. I thought to myself, “That’s such a cool title.” Far too often, God gives us permission and makes us aware of things that we can do or should do, but for whatever reason, we do not respond in obedience to those promptings of the Holy Spirit. Sometimes we don’t respond to a nudge because we are too distracted or too busy. At other times, we do not respond out of fear. I have observed in my ministry, that women often don’t respond to God’s prompting because of guilt, shame, or pride. Guilt brings the lie, “I could not possibly do that.” Shame follows with the question, “What would people think if I did that?” And pride is the tricky one because it masks itself in all kinds of ways. One of the uniforms of pride is the “Superwoman” cape. With this uniform comes the lie, “If I don’t do it, then it won’t get done.” It is a prideful posture and one that allows us to maintain a false sense of control. Most of the time, all of us are wrestling with the pressures of guilt, shame, and pride and we don’t even recognize it.
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