#Mentoring: When You Learn, Teach

SheLovesMagazine.com is hosting a week-long series on mentoring. I am featured on today’s post.


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I remember when I first saw her. She was a vibrant, fresh face in the sea of bodies passing through the noisy hallway of my church on Sunday morning. She is one of the reasons why some people are saying, “Forty is the new 20.” After introducing myself, I found that she was new to town and had already met several women that morning. Southern hospitality gets people every time.

As I got to know Roena, I discovered that she is a servant. She loves her family and is a stay-at-home mom to her son. Her family joined the church right away. It wasn’t long before I invited her to my home to participate in a small mentoring gathering that I was hosting for moms that summer. We enjoyed food, fellowship, and laughter filled the air as some snuggled on the couch, others sat in chairs to balance plates in their laps, while the more flexible ladies in the group stretched out on the floor.

And before I introduced the possibility of discussing Author Helen Lee’s book, The Missional Mom: Living with Purpose at Home & in the World together that summer, we prayed and settled into addressing a few matters of the heart.

Mentoring requires our willingness to confront the hard things, look at ourselves, and deal with our issues. I wanted to level the planning field in the room so I asked what I thought was a simple question, “Please share your name, and tell us one thing about yourself that does not include your spouse or your child.” I was surprised with the difficulty as woman after woman struggled to respond. So much of their identity was wrapped up in meeting the daily needs of their spouses and children that they really didn’t know who they were. At the heart of this conflict was an identity crisis, women who were strangers to themselves and didn’t see themselves first and foremost as children of God and disciples of Christ.

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Book Review: Jesus Feminist by @sarahbessey

Jesus Feminist: An Invitation to Revisit the Bible’s View of Women

Exploring God’s Radical Notion that Women are People, Too

Why I picked up this book:

Seminarians have the opportunity to complete a lot of reading. After evaluating my reading diet over the past few years, I was a little discouraged by the limited amount of assisted reading that was either written by women or writers of color. Therefore, my original desire was to read several books that were written for or about women this summer. I did not get through nearly as much reading as I would have liked, but this book was certainly at the top of my list. I was just itching to get to it as I saw the bright yellow quotes displayed on Pinterest.

Who Should Read Jesus Feminist:

I can certainly understand why some Christians would shy away from reading a book like this. After all, the title includes the dreaded “F” word. The words “Jesus” and “Feminist” cannot possibly go together. Or can they? I found this book quite delightful and refreshing to read. The author invites the reader into a conversation by a bonfire on the shore, so I think any woman who likes bonfires, seashores, and conversation should probably add this book to their reading list.   

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I’m Back!!!! What’s New and Next

The Summer Trip to Emerald Isle Beach

Summer Trip to Emerald Isle Beach

My sabbatical is over. I have had a wonderful summer relaxing and visiting with family and friends. I’ve homeschooled my daughter, fallen more in love with my husband, and finally got my dad out of South Carolina to visit our home. This was his first visit since our move back to NC and his longest visit ever (2 whole weeks)!

The days seamed to fly by and I did not get to read nearly as much as I would have liked. I did read several books written by fabulous women. A few of the book reviews were posted over the summer, but I have several more on the way.

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